I updated my ghost story yesterday because I was engaged in a long running conversation on this thread on Facebook. Started with a meme image composed mostly of the text "Religion is for people afraid of going to hell, Spirituality is for people who have already been there" can we say "false dichotomy"? I knew that you could.
I'm sticking to my guns on the subject. Skepticism (and through it pragmatism) is how you live in the real world, not getting sidetracked by all the woo we encounter in our daily lives. If you disagree, prove any of the stuff that skeptics question. Should be easy enough if it's true. If you know of a medium that you think of as reliable (a mediumship conference being where the image that started the thread was found) I would recommend you send them to The Million Dollar Challenge, or one of the other testing challenges (this is one of the points I've changed my opinion on since jotting down my ghost story the first time. There is a value in exposing the vast number of charlatans out there who prey on the believing. The number is growing, even) They are looking to find someone with a genuine talent, and not someone engaged in cheap theatrics. Haven't found anyone yet.
On a related note (in case you are confused on the subject) Climate deniers are not skeptics; they are peddlers of woo as certainly as any charlatan medium who claims to speak to the dead. Deniers in general are not skeptics any more than religious people can be Objectivists; there is a standard for evidence which must be met for a belief to be established as fact in both those systems. Denying science disqualifies you from claiming the label skeptic or the label objectivist. I only wish I could stop people from claiming labels that they don't deserve. The most I can do is pushback against their unwarranted claims, exposing the manipulation behind the curtain.
I don't embark on this course because I see no value in a good yarn, or the thought-provoking nature of a good parable. I put the brakes on this journey down woo avenue because, in the end, science is the only method we've ever discovered for determining what the truth is. An anecdote (like my ghost experience) remains exactly what it was. You cannot pile up anecdotes and create evidence. You simply have a pile of anecdotes.
Scientists are not altering what is acceptable evidence, or the scientific process. Those that do fall prey to false patterns and charlatans, Randi proved this by recruiting shills into some of the early paranormal studies, demonstrating that a good magician can create the illusion of paranormal activity quite easily.
The problem with any psi phenomenon is that there is no known mechanism which can explain how these things happen. Without a mechanism, there is no basis on which to gather evidence. That is where psi research has been stuck since the 60's.
The best defense, for the flawed pattern recognition machines that we are, is to remain skeptical. Had I accepted what believers told me back when I had my experience, I'd be deep in the woo now, trying to defend photo and sound anomalies as legitimate signs of paranormal activity (probably desperately trying to prove that rods exist) rather than looking into the machines used to capture this 'evidence' and discovering that the machines themselves are the cause of them.
The experiences remain exactly what they always have been. Inexplicable experiences, until we find a mechanism that might cause them. Then they aren't paranormal experiences anymore. You might say, of your own experiences "I wasn't hallucinating" and yet it remains entirely possible. The human brain is quite an amazingly adaptive organ. The process of remembering the experience alters the experience in memory. The more times you remember it and recount it, the stronger the memory can become, lending more reality to the images you think you saw. At some point the memory ceases to be a true recollection and becomes a story you tell yourself about the event(s).
Without scientific rigor, there isn't anything we can say we know.